Mea Culpa

I owe my family an enermous apology for an error in my most recent post. Wires were crossed and it seems I completely misunderstood information I was given about my father-in-law’s care at the end of his life. 

After hearing from family, I have been corrected – and want to set the record straight here. I suspect I confused concern over how he might be treated by the paramedics in relation to his advanced health care directive, rather than an actual incident. He was never intabated, the hospital and care givers followed his wishes, and the family did all they could to ensure respect, live, and excellent care. 

I have never doubted that he was given the best possible care and attention – this error is entirely mine, and I am deeply sorry for any stress, pain or upset I have caused. In truth, my father in law was treated with love and commitment that I wish everyone could have. He was helped to stay in his own home with superb care. He was loved, and still is, having left a significant hole in many hearts, including my own. 
I used the point essentially to illustrate how thing are, and what I hope will be for me. 

I humbly apologize again for any hurt I have caused. In the absence of a right-to-die clause, or if that window should ever close on me, it is exactly how I hope I am treated. 

1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Jack Whelan
    Nov 02, 2015 @ 16:17:53


    I wouldn’t worry too much about the ramifications of your comments that might have unintentionally offended family members or friends. First, as an Advocate we are charged to speak for those whose voice might not otherwise have been heard. So it’s not surprising that when we are vocal there’s a greater chance that we could be wrong from time to time.

    Next, as you are a Research Advocate with a distinct interest in science, you embrace the uncertainties of science so there’s a real possibility that you will have to change what you believe or understand as more data, even correcting data becomes available. Researchers eagerly look for more information that proves their hypothesis or assumptions to be correct or incorrect.

    Nonetheless, you can’t sit quietly and say nothing. I’m glad you are bold and willing to stick your neck out. The science has never been better. Your fellow Advocates and knowledgeable investigators appreciate your willingness to be wrong or right. In the end, we are all better off for your having taken a chance and willing to publicly correct what you learned was incorrect.

    Way to go, Lori!


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