Oh the joys of computers!
When it comes to my calendar I remain a “paper” girl at heart. I still look longingly at the rows of Franklin Planner cases in my office, reflections of years past. I am far more likely to remember what I write down. But I also find that if I’m too slow (as IF that happens) or I’m too busy (moi?), paper doesn’t work. Too slow and I forget to look in my datebook. Too busy, and I need the buzzing, pop-up reminder and nagging emails that my Google calendar provides. And lately, I’m TOO busy!
Having recently returned to work after a brief leave of absence, I’m still getting my groove back. One of my priorities is to carve out the ever elusive “me time” despite the resumed pressures and increased schedule-juggling. That means I’m spending more time in front my computer in search of more time to step away.
I’m hooked on Google calendar these days. I think I have finally mastered the skill of having everything in one place and being able to see it wherever I go – my computer at work, my office at home, my phone. And I’ve even mastered, maybe, color-coding my appointments. Blue for Zach’s appointments. Orange for work tasks. Brown for family things. And green for my stuff.
So the other day I was in the office trying to get a fix on the week ahead, and the colors, newly instituted, are a snapshot of how I spend my time. Here’s the puzzle: there’s green everywhere and yet I never feel like I have much time for me! I took a closer look…
- Dinner preparation and eating: green
- Grocery and dry-cleaner: green
- The erroneously coded work appointment: green
- School pick-up: green
- Days the housekeeper is coming: you guessed it – green
I know why they’re green – because I have to get them done, and when I make them green I pay attention to them since that is, after all, “my” color.
But arguably they are just as much “me” as they are “family.” Right? Not that I begrudge in any way doing these things for my family. It’s the compact we have – I have the luxury of working part time and I do most of the household tasks. I’m good with that; really good with it.
I’m just not good with defining it as “me” time. And so I made them what they rightly are: family tasks.
Does it matter? No, on a practical level it doesn’t since it all falls to me anyway. But psychologically it’s huge!
At a glance it is clear how lacking in green my newly coded calendar is. This snapshot of how I spend my time, however, has become an invitation to watch the occasional movie, make a dinner date with a friend, read a book, get to my writing, or just take a hot bath! It’s given me permission to set aside a little ME time – and I’m defining it in ways that support me! I know it’s a small victory, but we take them where we can!
So tell me: How do you set aside time for you? How easy (or hard) is it for you to value that time, to use it to give back to yourself? What do you do to make sure you’re paying attention? Or do you?