New Year’s Eve. Time when our thoughts turn to a review of year that has past, and resolutions for the year to come. And for me, it has been quite a year…from the high of my son’s bar mitzvah to the low of being diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer, I think both friends and family are ready to move forward with something new. I’m not sure, however, that things will change soon. So in an effort to make the most of a trying year, I have turned my attention to resolutions…
Perhaps, though, resolution is not the best word. While I don’t argue that losing weight, quitting smoking, drinking less, or exercising more are bad things, I don’t quite believe in those resolutions we tend to make that carry us to January 15 and then fall by the wayside, only to be picked up again 350 days later. Of course I hope to be better in the coming year…do more for my community, treat my body with greater respect, spend more time with my loved ones, and even write here more often! But I am cynical about calling those resolutions. We eat better for a week or two, then a steak calls our name for dinner, we fall off the weight loss wagon and indulge in chocolate cake for dessert. Having failed, we seem to give ourselves permission to give up altogether. The New Year’s Resolution, as we have come to know it, is a cop out.
Beginning today, I would rather think of it as a New Year’s Commitment. My commitment: I will strive to be the best, most true “me” that I can be. It involves all of the things I’ve already mentioned and more.
However, even that is too big. Call it what you may, a commitment to ourselves for the coming year will only be achievable if we can break it down into action steps. I am reminded of the AA adage: one day at a time. “One Day At A Time” has staying power for one reason — it works. The alcoholic can always have a drink tomorrow…just not today. And as luck would have it, when tomorrow arrives, it’s today.
In honor of this time-tested methodology, this year I am adopting a new strategy for 2012. I plan to greet each new day with a new commitment to myself, and I hope you will join me. Together we can avoid the boredom, and give ourselves permission to change one thing at a time. Each day we can change anew.
Jan 1 2012: I will enjoy every minute I have with my family before returning home on Monday.
What is YOUR 1/1/12 commitment?